esm: use import attributes instead of import assertions

The old import assertions proposal has been
renamed to "import attributes" with the follwing major changes:

1. The keyword is now `with` instead of `assert`.
2. Unknown assertions cause an error rather than being ignored,

This commit updates the documentation to encourage folks to use the new
syntax, and add aliases for module customization hooks.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/50140
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/50134
Refs: https://github.com/v8/v8/commit/159c82c5e6392e78b9bba7161b1bed6e23758984
Reviewed-By: Geoffrey Booth <webadmin@geoffreybooth.com>
Reviewed-By: Jacob Smith <jacob@frende.me>
Reviewed-By: Benjamin Gruenbaum <benjamingr@gmail.com>

doc/api/errors.md

@@ -1759,7 +1759,8 @@ added:
   - v16.14.0
 -->
 
-An import assertion has failed, preventing the specified module to be imported.
+An import `type` attribute was provided, but the specified module is of a
+different type.
 
 <a id="ERR_IMPORT_ASSERTION_TYPE_MISSING"></a>
 
@@ -1771,7 +1772,7 @@ added:
   - v16.14.0
 -->
 
-An import assertion is missing, preventing the specified module to be imported.
+An import attribute is missing, preventing the specified module to be imported.
 
 <a id="ERR_IMPORT_ASSERTION_TYPE_UNSUPPORTED"></a>
 
@@ -1783,7 +1784,17 @@ added:
   - v16.14.0
 -->
 
-An import assertion is not supported by this version of Node.js.
+An import attribute is not supported by this version of Node.js.
+
+<a id="ERR_IMPORT_ATTRIBUTE_UNSUPPORTED"></a>
+
+### `ERR_IMPORT_ATTRIBUTE_UNSUPPORTED`
+
+<!-- YAML
+added: REPLACEME
+-->
+
+An import attribute is not supported by this version of Node.js.
 
 <a id="ERR_INCOMPATIBLE_OPTION_PAIR"></a>